When it comes to the internet, it seems common sense to think that the physical distance and anonymity the online world provides allows, even encourages, people to do things they wouldn’t normally do “in real life”.If you don’t believe your actions hold any consequences for you, then there is no fear of the social ramifications which might normally keep certain behaviours in check.John Suler called this the “online disinhibition effect”.
"Can you please send me a photo of you in a bikini? There will be no chance you can be pegged as crazy or high-maintenance on first glance.
I'd like to know what I'm getting before we meet up." That's an actual quote from an email I received on So in short, here are the dos and don'ts of profile photos: DON'T post photos where you look psycho. All of this says just says, "Please pay off my credit card debt." DON'T post photos that are 10 years old or don't look like the current you. DO post a full-body shot in which you are doing something athletic.
It's also the email that sent me on a half-hour-long rant to two (very straight) guy friends here in San Francisco. The following week I received 400 emails, which was not only an overwhelming increase from my weekly average of 40-50, but it also yielded many of the nice men I was looking for. No photos where you have a manic gleam in your eye, or where you seem drunk or even where you're looking arty and contemplative (trust me, you just seem depressed). You want to meet guys who are attracted to you as you are. Don't give away where you currently live, work or go to school (college logos, for example), and NEVER show your home address. You could be at the top of a hike, riding a bike or just jumping in the air.
As the dating venture announced, the new standards reflect what their users want.
After having analysed reasons why some profiles are essentially ignored, the company found that 86% of them contain photos taken in mirrors, The site hopes that these rules will bring good manners to the online dating environment, similar to real life interactions.