Every girl who is looking for her Prince Charming always envisions a tall, dark and handsome man.Few descriptions of this person ever describe his mental condition; however, psychology tells us that if a person is tall, dark and handsome, the halo effect that we ascribe to him will automatically include intelligence, wit and mental stability.Here are just a few of the lessons I carry with me: You can’t make someone happy.Whenever my ex was in a depressive state, I would try to make him happy by offering to watch his favorite movie, go to his favorite restaurant, or give him a back rub.It is not uncommon to feel completely powerless to help that person in a meaningful way. Even your presence can impact someone soaring through the extremes of the Disorder.I aim to provide you with meaningful tools to help not only the Survivor in your life but allow the supporter to preserve themselves in the process.
Considering to leave the person because the disorder has become too much is common. If you want a person to change, you must first realize how hard it is to change yourself.
I write it with the assumption that the Survivor will inevitably do incredible damage to their relationship; if it hasn’t happened yet, it will at some point.
Therefore, we want to minimize the potential damage by developing an understanding of ourselves and how we affect our loved ones.
Ending any relationship is difficult, and deciding to end a relationship because of a person’s mental condition only complicates things further. While treatments for bipolar disorder can help control the condition, it will be a constant battle throughout his or her life. Michael Brodsky, medical director of Bridges to Recovery—a crisis stabilization center with several locations in California—said while people with bipolar disorder are known to be creative, charismatic, energetic, and inspirational, they can also be unpredictable, promiscuous, inattentive, and self-focused.
Some of these qualities make it hard on a relationship, so a person must weigh whether he or she wants stability over excitement, he said. Brodsky said there’s no perfect time to end a relationship with someone who is bipolar.